Of course the friend made a show of being "really hurt" because he felt I didn't like him anymore for something he claimed to be innocent of but was actually quite guilty of. New BF had been a mutual friend who I had suspicions about, but I was told repeatedly it was all in my head. Fast forward five years to me coming home one day with him declaring he was moving to a not-at-all-rainy state with his new boyfriend. I thought he knew what it took to make a long-term relationship work and his post-divorce finances put him in a spot where it really helped him for us to live together. It was out of character for me to move that fast, but we clicked.
We progressed quickly, moved to the burbs, made a home, and even had one of his kids come live with us. I met and fell for a recently divorced guy with a few teen kids. I'm a gay male in his mid 40s living in a rainy city.
Intermittent or "on-demand" use of PrEP is highly effective take two pills 24 hours before you have sex and one pill a day for two days afterwards.
But you can use PrEP without taking it daily if you're having sex with other men once or twice a year and you're making those sex dates at least a few days in advance. If you wanna be able to have spontaneous and/or anonymous sex with other men, taking PrEP daily is smart. If you wanna use a condom because you're not on PrEP and/or you wanna protect yourself and your wife from all the sexually-transmitted infections PrEP won't protect you from- and that would be all the other sexually-transmitted infections out there-insist on condoms and pass on guys who argue with you about it.ģ. Now with PrEP (a daily pill that prevents HIV infection) and treatments for HIV+ men that make it impossible for them to spread the virus (HIV+ men with undetectable viral loads can't transmit the virus), fewer gay and bi men are using condoms these days. Even at the height of the AIDS Crisis-even at a time when contracting HIV was almost invariably fatal-condoms weren't used 100% of the time by 100% of gay and bi men. If you don't wanna hide the wife and don't wanna wind up with a FWB who wants you to leave the wife for him, finding guys who are actually turned on by the fact that you have a wife at home is not a bad strategy.Ģ. And while biphobic gay men get all the press, WANNABI, there are lots of biphilic gay men out there-that is, gay men who are really into married "straight" men. You also shouldn't assume the men you meet on "gay" hookup apps are gay some will be bisexual, just like you. But if all you're after is some casual sex, WANNABI, you don't need to disclose your bisexuality to the men you meet on the apps. So I'm happy to hear that your spouse accepts your bisexuality, WANNABI, and I'm going to apologize in advance for the biphobia you'll encounter from some dumb gay men. Yes, straight biphobia is less gallingly hypocritical, I will grant you, but it does more harm research has shown that having a biphobic straight spouse is the single biggest risk factor for poor mental health outcomes among bisexuals. There are lots of biphobic gay men out there, WANNABI, but I gotta say… there are more biphobes in the straight community. Wondering About Navigating New Arenas Before Indulgingġ.